Archive for June, 2009

Long time no write…

Not that there hasn’t been anything to write… oh no.. there’s been TONS.

And it’s not that I didn’t have time. Well.. I never have time..

Thing is, I just haven’t had the desire.

I go through this every once in a while.

Someone emailed me asking if I had writer’s block. I don’t. I just didn’t feel like it… it’s that simple.

In the next day or so, I’ll get back on track and then I’ll be writing about the following:

  • Bubba’s graduation
  • A new relationship with an in-law that had some interesting revelations
  • A surprise phone call from my mother-in-law who I new existed.. in the literal sense of the word
  • My birthday
  • My job.. the one I won’t have at the end of the week
  • Weed’s re-immergence into “our” lives
  • The Crack Whore holding Bubba hostage for his money
  • The Crack Whore’s breakup with her pimp boyfriend and her refusal to keep the job she supposedly had
  • My complete and utter disappointment in the last two episodes of Harper’s Island
  • The sudden re-immergance of my period

Okay… so one kid was out with his friends… the other kid was glued in front of the tv and the husband was putting in a new car stereo so I actually had 2 hours of peace..

So in between loads of laundry.. I got to watch Episode 9 and had the chance to really disect things.

Let’s get too it:

Two things from that were repeated in the recap made me think of something:

Burned Man: Abby coming home has set this whole thing off


JD: It’s all about you, Abby

The obvious is that the Abby / Wakefield / Sheriff triangle was the catalyst for the murders starting. But for some reason I was thinking that hmmm.. maybe there’s a different spin on that. Haven’t quite worked it all out in my head yet.. but I have a gut feeling that it’s NOT the obvious.

So the show opens and Shae, Trish, Danny are waiting at the Candlewick when Katherine walks in and informs everyone that the phone’s are still out.

Danny wants to know how many hours there are until sunrise and Katherine replies “.. too many”.

Um.. yea.. like the sun is going to change things right? Just HOW many people where murdered during the day? But then, that’s something WE know and they don’t.

Sully and Beth show up so the only people not accounted for are Jimmy, Henry, Abby, the Sheriff, Chloe and Cal.

The next scene explains that.

The Sheriff, Abby, Chloe and Cal are in the .. medical examiner’s? .. place.

When did they meet up? The Sheriff was left in Jimmy’s truck when JD was found. I’ll go out on a limb and say that Abby goes back to the Sheriff leaving Henry with JD. As for Jimmy, either he goes to the truck to and is imformed by Abby about JD  -OR- Jimmy finds Henry / Abby / JD and sends Abby back to her dad.. thus staying with Henry. Either way, I’m not really sure that it’s important.  Remember, I had a lot of time on my hands today!

As Cal starts working on the Sheriff, he says that it’s been a long time since he worked on a life patient.

Given that I didn’t even remember that he WAS a doctor, I may have missed what exactly he does for a living now.

He instructs Chloe to find O-negative blood :: how does he know that? Some test or something that we assume happened or what? :: meanwhile, the Sheriff tells Abby to “… keep Harkin’s [the Burned Man] book safe.”

It’s then that Henry and Jimmy make their first appearance, carrying JD’s body into the room next to.. or down the hall from.. the Sheriff’s. :: Don’t know.. but it was definitely the same building! :: Henry is visibly upset. Sincerely upset.

Jimmy happens to look down and sees some folded up papers :: obvious to us that they’re pages from Wakefield’s diary :: and gives them to Henry, saying that they were JD’s.

But did they REALLY fall out of JD’s pocket… or is it possible that he planted them?

Quite possible that I had too much time on my hands! But it’s a thought!

Maybe JD saying that all this was about Abby was suggesting that Jimmy was the one behind all this because he was pissed off that Abby left?

We cut to Shae freaking out at Sully for attempting to leave the island and putting Madison at risk. Trish asks about Henry and Sully tells them about JD.. Trish wonders out loud if JD being dead means that he didn’t kill her father.

What? WHAT? Sorry but I thought that was a really random thing to say!

All of sudden, lights and music blare into the room. Sully and Danny :: doing their best Tubbs and Crockett impersonation :: check out what turns out to be an empty truck.. turns out that it’s Shane’s who :: weilding his own shotgun :: is looking for JD.

They tell him that JD’s dead and honestly, I think his reaction is legit. I didn’t get the impression that he had something to do with it :: a thought from last week ::

Chloe finds the blood and brings it to Cal.  Jimmy pops in and asks how the Sheriff is doing and Abby tells him that the state police will be there in the morning and then they could get him to a hospital.

How do we know the state police are on their way? Are we to assume that someone from the wedding party that made the trip back to the mainland is going to inform them? And if so, don’t they have boats with lights? You have all these murders going on and yea.. we’re just going to wait until the sun comes up to travel over.

Abby goes over to see Henry :: who’s still with JD :: He’s tells her that he couldn’t save JD and it’s either the actor playing Henry’s best acting -OR- HENRY’s best acting. Either way, I felt bad for him. He also wonders aloud who’s doing all this.

Abby asks him if JD said anything… and Henry said “no”.

Odd? You’re dying and with your only surviving relative and YOU DON’T SAY ANYTHING? Nothing?  Of course, maybe JD did but Henry isn’t saying.

Henry asks Abby what he [JD] said to her…

Odd again? Or presumption? OR are we not suppose to think about that?

Abby tells him. Henry both stumped and feeling guilty of JD tells Abby that he needs to go to the Inn and check on Trish. Abby insists that he doesn’t go alone but he tells her to stay with the Sheriff and to lock the doors.

Back at the Candlewick, Danny and Sully comes in with Shane. Katherine asks about the Sheriff :: I’m wondering if SHE’S wondering if he has a big pension! :: and Shae asks about Madison. Shea wants to do “something”. She’s a mom so I can understand her going off about it. Henry tells her that they have to stay. Trish seconds it saying that it’s the only way they’ll be safe.

Um.. where’s Beth? Does anyone know where Beth it?

Back at the medical examiner’s place, Jimmy comes up behind Abby reading the diary. She says that even though it’s pretty burned up, she can still see the Sheriff being spoken about all over the diary. She confides in Jimmy about her mother’s relationship with Wakefield. Jimmy tells her about the pages he found with JD but had given them to Henry.


Sorry.. couldn’t resist.

Next thing we know.. Maggie :: hello Maggie! :: shows up saying that she’s locked all the doors and gave the keys to Trish saying that there is now only one way in and one way out.

Uh-huh. We know what THAT means!

.. and why give the keys to Trish? Why not keep them yourself? And why are you even still there? I would have suspected, like most of the workers there that they lived on the island.

Henry goes into the kitchen where Danny and Sully are with Shane.. who throws his digs at Henry about JD.

Shane also states the obvious.. that all the murders started to happen after the wedding party arrived. But the smartest thing Shane has said all season was that they were being locked IN with the killer.


Henry challanges Shane.. he can either be locked inside OR outside. When Shane doesn’t answer, Henry tell him to help “lock the place up”.

Um.. Didn’t One-Door-In-One-Door-Out Maggie already do that? And wasn’t Henry there when she said it?

The next thing we see is Trish cleaning Henry’s wounds. He doesn’t remember how he got them.. said he didn’t feel them… they don’t look like scratch marks.. more like knife marks. Did something happen with JD that he’s blocking out?

Abby and Jimmy come in. Henry asks for the Sheriff and is told that Cal said that he would be ok.

Abby asks to see the pages and Henry gives them to her. Coincidentally, she opens the journal to the EXACT spot where the pages were ripped out and begins to read.. gasping at the sentence that her mother had Wakefield’s baby and figures that she could be his daughter.

Now.. although that has been my theory all along, it dawned on me that I just assumed that Abby was her mother’s only child. Maybe she had too.. Maybe Henry is Abby’s half-brother? I know.. that part I just added for affect but going back to the openning of this post, maybe it’s all about Abby because the killer is her half-sibling who is jealous of the life she’s had.  No better or no worse then any other theory out there, right?

Only Trish, Henry and Jimmy were with Abby when she read it but Shane over hears it and goes back and tells Sully and Danny.

Jimmy confronts Shane. The cat’s out of the bag, Shane says… Abby is Wakefield’s daughter.  Abby looks like she’s going to cry.

Next thing we know, Sully, Danny and Oh! Look! BETH! are walking through the kitchen :: again with the kitchen? … and for what? What possible reason could they have for walking through the kitchen again? :: when they hear Henry yelling “You Son Of A Bitch!”

He’s confronting Shane who just says that he’s only stating the obvious.. the 7 years without a murder.. blah blah blah. Henry is getting defensive :: Hey! Isn’t that Jimmy’s job? :: Sully is kind of agreeing with Henry.. and Henry gives him a look like “.. you asshole!”

Shane goes on about everybody dying and how it all connects to Abby. Abby gets upset and walks out.

In a scene that I personally think was just filler .. Katherine goes looking for Shae :: when did she leave? :: .. as she’s walking down a hallway, she hears a noise that makes her pause but finds Shae in her room apparenlty with Madison’s clothes. :: weren’t they already packed to leave the island? :: Katherine wants Shae to join the group. Shae says she HAS TO DO SOMETHING :: that mother thing again :: but Katherine tells her everything is going to be ok. Shae goes bizerk telling Katherine that she ruined everything, Katherine says the whole Richard “thing” wasn’t meant to hurt her :: um, are you delusional woman? :: and that she loves Madison. Shae.. in probably one of the best lines she’s had says, “.. you don’t get to love her.”

Then she tells her what every self-respecting woman tells the woman who was being tied up by her husband.. GET OUT.

In the meantime, Jimmy finds Abby outside :: wait! isn’t there a killer out there? :: Abby has the diary and tells Jimmy about the phone calls.. about the article planted in her room. She says something.. can’t remember what.. about being wanted and Jimmy says that [the killer] can’t have her.

Is that an “aww” moment or is he showing signs of being a controlling homocidal maniac?

We now switch over to Cal and Chloe. Chloe is all godsmack about Cal saving the Sheriff’s life. Cal says something about how he now disects dead things and Chloe responds, “.. I know. Brains.”

Hmm. Interesting. What popped into my mind was a scene in Young Frankstein when Igor finds AB E NORMAL‘s brain!

He then mentions NEUROANATOMY. Odd.

Chloe is obviously horny. As they leave the Sheriff’s room, the camera pans down to an oxygen tank. I think I hear a hissing sound like it’s leaking. Is that why Chloe is in heat? Weird. Why focus on an oxygen tank unless it’s going to come into play sometime soon…

Meanwhile.. Jimmy and Abby attempt to get back into the Inn but Shane has locked the door. He won’t let them in but Henry shows up and bangs Shane’s head against the door and a fight ensues. Henry’s a lot stronger then he looks.. or maybe it’s the adrenaline.

And then Sully asks where Beth is.

Back in the kitchen :: where they were before Henry first confronted Shane :: Sully and Danny find Beth’s broken lantern and blood on the door.

In one of the night’s sillest moments, they knock.

Oh Beth! Beth! Are you in there? Come on.

They kick the door in. Henry, Trish and Abby :: obviously someone unlocked the door to let her and Jimmy in :: show up and they spot more blood. Henry moves a kitchen rack and finds a hidden door.

At first glance, it looks like just a room… but on the right side, you can see a shadow that gives the impressoin that it is actuall an “L” shaped tunnel.

Ine thing I was thinking was that if there was blood leading to a tunnel :: presumably that the killer is using :: then how did the rack get back over the opening? One theory is that the killer .. somehow .. was able to move the rack back. The other theory is that someone ELSE moved the rack back.

NOTE: There was a commercial break after the door was opened that showed only Henry, Abby, Trish, Sully and Danny. After the commercial break, Maggie appeared.

Maggie states that the Inn was built during Prohabition and that she had no idea there were tunnels.

To me, that sounded off. False. I mean, was it just shoddy writing? How could you NOT know about the history :: including tunnels :: if you’re the innkeeper?

Anyway.. Trish wants to investigate :: Beth’s MY FRIEND, DAMMIT! :: but Henry wouldn’t have none of it. He tells her to stay with Shae.

Sully wonders if it’s a trap but Henry rebuts that Beth might still be alive.

Henry gives Trish a shotgun who says, “.. my father taught me” when Henry asks if she knows how to use it.

Another weird bit of dialog.

And of course, Abby and Jimmy show up volunteering to help.

Trish walks by Shane in the bar and they have a little dialog when Catherine comes in looking for Shae. Both women head to Shae’s room and find a Tarot Card that Madison liftd a few episodes ago.

Shane pops in asking if they found her and was it me or was Shane freakin’ creepy?

Trish wants to find Shae but Katherine says they can’t go out there. Trish agrees but soon.. when Shane and Catherine are sitting at the bar, they hear the music of Shane’s truck and run to the window just in time to see Trish drive away.

In the tunnels, Sully is still spewing about Abby being Wakefield’s daughter when they come to a fork in the tunnel. Blood in both directions.

Abby suggests they split up.


As one character :: I don’t remember who :: said “.. no version of this ends well.”

Danny and Sully go one way… Abby, Jimmy and Henry go the other.

Back at the bar, Shane and Catherine are doing shots. Shane asks if Catherine was a bridesmade “… or sumptin’” and Catherine tell shim that she is Trish’s stepmother. He calls her  a trophy wife to which Katherine responds “was”

Hmm.. and y’all thought they married for love!

But when asked if she was left a “zillion” dollars, Katherine walks out. Insulted.

Oh. Come. On.

Shane, inexplicably :: but a clue? :: starts carving his name in the bar. Maggie catches him and when asked why he would do such a things responds that nobody is going to come to the inn anyway after all this.

Um, don’t get around much do you Shane?

Just a thought.. if Maggie was the killer, I would have thought that she would have planted a head spade in Shane’s head for marking up her bar!

Cut to Trish driving down the road and finding Shae. She’s spazzing but yknow.. whatever. Nothing major here. Trish takes her back to the truck and they head back to the Inn.

Back in the tunnel, Danny gets on Sully about believing anything bad about Abby. A few revelations, Danny referred to her as “Abner” :: clue? :: and said that he’s been trying to get in her pants for years and Sully has knows her longer then he knows Danny but Sully isn’t convinced.

Importance? I don’t know. Just seems like something to remember.

Meanwhile.. Jimmy, Abby and Henry are going their own way and there’s conversation about the Sheriff knowing Wakefield. But UH OH! They come to a crawl space.

Meanwhile Sully and Danny are at the end of their line and guess what’s there? A crawl space! This one with BLOOD!

Abby goes through hers… Danny goes through his.

Danny calls other that there’s another tunnel ahead.. finds Beth and has an appropriate slasher film freak out.

Abby continues to crawl forward :: is it me or did the smaller Abby have a hearder time getting through the crawl space then Danny?” :: and then SLAM.. a gate drops between her and Henry and Jimmy.

The boys tell her to stay put. They’re going to get tools to get her out. So what does she do with homicidal maniac on the loose and the blood of dead friends supposedly on her shoulders?

Our gal Abby moves ahead.. and sees another tunnel herself.

Her end of the tunnel opens into a room. She calls out to Henry :: um.. not Jimmy? Poor Jimmy :: but hears a spooky noise so she goes back into the tunnel.

As she’s crawling through, someone grabs her ankles and pulls her back. :: I’ve been watching and watching this scene trying to see something that might give a clue as to who was grabbing her.. man? woman? but I couldn’t see anything :: she kicks and kicks and was finally able to get away. She goes through the tunnel :: what happened to the gate? :: into a room.

NOTE: One thing I forgot to mention, there is no way in HELL Maggie would fit into these crawl spaces!

Inside the room :: it’s obviously a space that is used by someone because of the personal touches, like old fashioned lamps :: Abby finds a sleeping Madison.

Doesn’t ask her anything.. how did she get there? Who put here there? Nope. Nothing. She just gets the girl and high tails it out of there. Can’t say I blame her thought!

Meanwhile, Sully and Danny run into Henry and Jimmy and tell them about Beth… they tell the boys about Abby being caged in the crawl space and needing tools to get her out.

Meanwhile.. Abby and Madison are making there way through the tunnel :: just when did they hit water? :: when Madison spots a ladder to a manhole cover.

Henry and Jimmy, in the meantime, are back inside the Inn asking Shane for his tools. Shane tells them that they’re in the truck.. that Trish took to find Shae.

NOTE: As Trish and Shae are driving back to the Inn, Trish mentions that the sun is coming up. Uh huh.. there’s that eternal optimism again!

Madison and Abby climb up the ladder to the manhole cover but Madison isn’t strong enough to lift it.. so they start screaming for help.

DUH! Why the hell would you let a kid go up first? Well.. maybe to keep her safe but really if that was your goal then why the hell would you scream.. because.. um.. yknow.. it would ECHO in the tunnel.

But while they’re screaming and Madison is trying to get her hand through the grate, Trish and Shae are driving down the road.. and over.. the manhole cover. It isn’t until Shae see’s Madison’s hand in the rear view mirror that they turn around and rescue Madison and Abby.

All is well…


But one thing about that.. I know me.. and I know that if I’m driving down a dark road in the middle of the night spazzing out because I can’t find my daughter who was kidnapped by a homicidal maniac and I saw a hand rise up out of a manhole cover.. I would not have stopped and investigated. In fact, I probably would have started screaming and put pedal to metal! LOL

We switch back to Cal and Chloe who are all tangled in eachother on .. presumably.. the floor of the med examiner’s place. Chloe is asleep :: drugged? passed out? :: and Cal looks at her with I swear the weirdest.. strangest grin. To me, it wasn’t an “.. oh, she looks so lovely after she has multiple orgasms!” or “.. how the hell can I be so lucky that this woman loves me.”

No. .. I said it before and I’ll say it again.. there is something up with him. Could he have been the one in the tunnel pulling at Abby? If Chloe was out for the count that.. hmm.. maybe.

But what we do find out is that the Sheriff is gone.. pulled out his IV and left a bloody mess on the sheets. But more importantly.. THE OXYGEN TANK IS GONE.

Did he see Cal leave? Did he take the tank to use as a weapon? Could he even carry it around on a bum leg? Did CAL take the tank to blow something up with.. like the marina years before?  This is killing me.

Back at the Inn, the girls return. Did anyone notice Shane’s face? I’m telling you he has an evil look about him. Does he know more then what’s being told? Is he DOING more then what’s being shown? I dunno but it’s creepy.

Maggie says something to Madison but she won’t talk.. Abby mentions that she asked her.. probably in truck back.

Shane happens to stumble upon Catherine sitting in a love seat in some room. He says something to her but she doesn’t respond because.. um.. she’s dead.

He notices blood seeping out from either side of her. It goes from alittle seep to large puddles fairly quickly so either that was done for affect OR she was killed seconds before he found her by a pair of hedge clippers gauged firmly through the love seat and into her back.

One problem with this… and I’m still trying to mull it over.

The love seat is against a wall and while the seat slopes down leaving more and more room, it still isn’t enough room for someone to silently plunge hedge clippers into a unsuspecting.. seated.. Katherine.

I know. I have a pair and those suckers are long.

My husband :: who by this time had finished the car stereo and watched the end with me :: said that the only possible solution was that clippers were already in place when Katherine was pushed onto them.

The thing about THAT though is peaceful :: albeit blue tinged :: look on her face. Definately did not look like someone who was pushed onto something that impaled her.

Another thing that comes into mind. My SIL :: a kidney specialist :: had mentioned one time that people who don’t die quietly in their sleep have one of two mouth shapes. An “O” and a “Q” .. the “Q” symbolizing the tongue hanging out of her mouth.

Katherine has niether so questions remain. I hope to HELL it isn’t crappy writing. I really do because so far the show has hit high marks with me.. but if it goes down hill from here, I’ll be more then alittle pissed!

In the final scene, Madison does start to talk. She asks Abby if she liked “.. the game? He said you’d like it.” Abby asked her “… what man” and Madison replied in a snarky little “hahahah” voice, “.. the man who took me. You’re father. You know, the Sheriff?”

That just about wraps it up but I do have a some nugget of info for the mildly interested.

While typing up this post :: all 3900+ words so far :: Law & Order: Criminal Intent was on.. and guess who one of the characters was played by. Yep, you guessed it. Creepy Madison.

And she was just as creepy in L&O.. so maybe her creepinest isn’t an act.

Now THAT’S scary!!

If you don’t know who Sister Fica Hedonista is.. read THIS

It’s been a few years since Sr. Fica showed his .. um.. hairy face. And with good reason.

Apparently, Sr. Fica’s whereabouts were revealed when one of the other nuns in her convent saw the good sister standing the wrong way in a bathroom stall.

Mind you, Sr. Fica WAS castrated after the father of one of his altar boys found out what really went on in the confessional booth but obviously this poor father was so distraught that he didn’t do that best of jobs and left a little nub.

Of course, there were also OTHER flags that didn’t make sense until her true identity was discovered.

Things like her habit of sitting on the couch with her legs open… scratching her absent balls.. hellatious flatuance and large hairy ape hands.

Identity discovered, Sr. Fica went under ground :: some say as an understudy in the Piora Theater’s version of “Black Patten Leather Shoes Reflect Up” :: and it’s also been reported that Sr. Fica appeared in an untitled role in Mamma Mia.

This picture of Sr. Fica was taken in an unknown unemployment office.



Goober has a WIFE now!!! I’m really going to have censor myself now! I’m going to have to tuck most of the Goober Files back in the box hidden in the back of my brain!!! LOL!!

No.. so seriously. Goober got married.

He really did.


NO.. HONEST!!!!!!

Goober and Raisinette have known each other for probably a long time. They were together as a couple for a long time but then broke up and somewhere .. sometime.. fate crossed their paths again.

Fate is like that sometimes. Especially when it’s having a bad day and just wants to fuck with people to get it’s rocks off.

What other excuse could there be? Right?


Anyway.. so it wasn’t like he flew to Hawaii.. had one to many rum punches succumbed to the advances of the portly hulu girl that they hide in the back line.. WHO btw.. guilted him into marrying her because she swallowed.

Nope.. nothing like that at all..


I think…

I HOPE…!!!

No. No. Of course not! And I won’t get into the “swallow” thing.

What really happened .. according to the Goob is that it was just the right place and time. It just happened and that’s maybe the way it should be..

I can tell you that they got married on the beach…

I can tell you that he did NOT wear Man Flops

I CANNOT tell you weather or not he got a pedi on his ape paws. He says he won’t tell so that means HELL YEA AND I LOVED EVER DAMN METROSEXUAL SECOND OF IT!

Anyway.. all the best for Goober and Raisinette. I’d raise a glass to them but I’m at work and not allowed to have anything that could potentially be used as a weapon..

No seriously… I wish both of you nothing but the best!

So last night when I got home from work, I stopped at the shop to pick up dinner. We were having steak and sauteed broccoli so in an effort to NOT eat at 930pm, I picked everything up and took it home to cook.

NOTE: I’m going to say this again.. even though I live with a chef.. I am a hell of a cook myself and the boys ALWAYS enjoy whatever I make!

When I got home, Bubba was home asleep on the couch. He was obviously up late the night before but you know what? I really didn’t mind it so much because as much of a problem as he is, I like when he’s home…

Spaz was “helping” me in the kitchen.. meaning he just stood attached to my hip talking and talking and talking and talking but you know.. I didn’t mind.. this is what SHOULD be going on in our house.

Everything had just finished cooking when Chief came in so we sat down and had dinner.

Bubba was saying that his class had gone to the local public high school for a tour and he said it wasn’t bad and that the teachers seemed nice.. that it wasn’t like everybody was telling him it was.

He also gave me the pamphlet containing his summer reading list and told me what book he wanted to read and what questions he wanted to answer.

I felt a little bit like we were in the Twilight Zone because it seemed normal, yknow? And if your a regular reader of this blog then you know that my life is ANYTHING but normal!!

After we finished eating, I started doing the dishes and Bubba was asking me about the PS3 controller. I told him that I’d let him use mine but then I thought.. no.. we’re going to watch a movie.

Spaz was already playing a PS3 game and so when I went into the living room I said, “… yknow, I thought it would be cool to watch a movie.”

They both asked which one and I was like, “… I dunno. Maybe we can see what’s on Pay Per View.”

NOTE: I have a block on the Pay Per View button and only order movies about twice a month so it’s a big deal.. ESPECIALLY because it was a week night!

Bubba.. very maturely, I might add.. asked Spaz if we could watch a movie after he gets down playing his online round of PS3. Spaz responded in a semi-abrupt way and I was like, “… dude, he’s showing you some courtesy by asking you because you’re already playing.”

Spaz was all like, “.. oh well what are you asking me for .. you can do whatever you want to.”

I explained to him very patiently :: biting my tongue :: and very dumbed down that Bubba was being polite and he shouldn’t take that the wrong way. It was the right way to handle it and SO much better then him just taking the remote and turning the channel on him, RIGHT??

He got it and we ordered the movie.

NOTE: I will be the FIRST person to say that the movie we ordered “Sex Drive” was UTTERLY AND COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE FOR SPAZ. The description on PPV wasn’t really THAT bad and the trailer wasn’t really that bad. Nothing he hasn’t seen before but I should have known that THE TRAILER IS FOR GENERAL VIEWING.. DUH!!!

When a scene came on, I would laughing fein embarassment and yell “.. SPAZ!! Close your eyes!! Close your eyes!!!”

We were hysterical laughing and it was a good time.

The only downside is that Chief was holed up in the bedroom. When we first ordered the movie, Bubba asked me to go get his dad. I went into the bedroom asking him if he wanted to see a really funny movie but he was exhausted and couldn’t keep his eyes openned.

And even though I knew he wouldn’t be, I told the kids that he would be out as soon as he felt better.

After the movie, Spaz had gone to bed and Bubba asked me if I was going to play Call of Duty. I told him that I was going to bed and he asked me if I had spoken to his father about staying home from school [today].

I told him I did and the answer was no. He asked why his father was “.. being such a dick” and I asked him why HE was being one.

He kept saying that I didn’t understand what he was saying and I told him that I did.. but HE wasn’t understanding where I was coming from and he never does. He just wants what he wants when he wants it and gives no consideration to anybody.

So I figured, you know what? He opened this can of worms so I was going for it full speed ahead.

And told him stuff that he may not have WANTED to hear but NEEDED to.

I told him that while I loved his Pop-Pop to death, he wasn’t always the man he is now and that when Chief was a kid he was handed out routine beatings with objects of capital punishment whether he deserved it or not..

I told him that THAT was the only parenting your father knew so the yelling and freaking out that he does may not be effective but he’s never been exposed to a different way of parenting.

I told him that he needed to cut his father slack.. he needs to stop using me as a middle man and talk directly to him.

His response was that he yells all the time and so I told him that he’s going to have to keep trying and stop doing things that are going to get him YELLED AT.

Do what he asks.. do what I ask.. the more we pitch in to help each other the faster things get done and the more free time we’d have.

I told him that it hurts Chief that he’s never home.. that he goes out until curfew and spends the weekends away. I told him that I understand WHY he doesn’t want to be at the house :: Spaz :: but he is part of this family and a lot of time we don’t do things because he’s not around to do it with us …

I also told him that sometimes, we just do things on the spur of the moment :: like going to the movies that Saturday we were going to buy him sneakers :: and when he’s not around or we don’t know how to find him.. what does he expect us to do.

He said that he asks me to talk to his dad because I can get him to do things.. I told him that I most certainly can not and that there’s ALOT of things that I would do differently.. but I’m not into controlling anybody and your father has to make his own decisions…

Bubba had also said, for example, if he asked Chief to go to eat Chief would say ‘no’ but that I would take them.

I told him he has to understand that I realize that since opening up the shop, everyone has become more distant is it really isn’t fair for them :: Bubba and Spaz :: to have to suffer for it.. they have way too much freedom and not enough supervision.. so when they want to go out to eat.. or whatever.. yea, I take them because sometimes Chief can’t and the only thing I do as far as “getting him to say yes” is just remind him about priorities.

The other thing I told him.. stressed it, actually.. is that I know that the reason why he doesn’t spend a lot of time at the house is because of Spaz. I said that we all know that Spaz has issues.. he can’t change himself so it is up to us to be more understanding of it and and not let him get under our skin.. the more you ignore him the more he stops trying to annoy you..

It’s up to him.. as an older brother.. to be understanding and not fall into his trap.

I felt good after talking to him.. he’s a different kid sometimes and he’s getting to an age where he has to grow up a little and I felt that in order for him to act like a young man, he has to be treated like a young man.

But that’s how I felt last night!! I’m sure he’ll do something to piss me off by the time I get home from work!! LOL