Yesterday Chief told me that Bubba’s science teacher called him. Apparently, not only did Bubba have IN SCHOOL detention but also AFTER SCHOOL detention. Bubba said he wasn’t doing it and he left. So the teacher was calling to tell Chief that because of THAT, Bubba will now have TWO after school detentions.
Chief told Bubba that, obviously, him and Bubba’s teacher are in communication so if he doesn’t go to the detentions he will be grounded .. in his room.. until September.
I asked him what about the incident where he said he wasn’t going.. isn’t he going to be punished for that?
Chief said ‘no’ because when he spoke to the teacher last week, there was no after school detention so he doesn’t agree with her just throwing it on at the last minute… but he didn’t tell Bubba that.
Yknow what.. I wouldn’t handle it that way but I’m not getting involved in it.
So when I got home from work yesterday, I had to take Spaz to youth group. I saw one of Bubba’s friends leaving the house as I pulled up and when I went in, there were 4 more in there..
Everything was in disarray… the dog had destroyed a cardboard cup holder that was all over the floor… napkins.. taco bell wrappers .. and the usual stuffed animal stuffing.
I asked him if he was having a party .. motioning towards his friends. He had the usual stupid look on his face and I started cleaning up.
Neither of them are suppose to have friends over unless they ask first and I didn’t know if he had asked his father or not.
Spaz jumped up and started helping me and I told him not to. Bubba was suppose to do it. Spaz will clean up around the house .. usually as I’m pulling up but I don’t care about that .. and Bubba knows that so he’ll leave everything for Spaz to do and that’s not fair to him.
We left .. with Bubba and his friends still in the house .. and as Spaz got into the car he asked me if I was leaving them. I asked him why he would say that and he said because I put up with alot.
Volumes. Spoke volumes.
Anyway.. so I called Chief and told him that I didn’t want it to seem like I’m trying to get Bubba in trouble but he’s in there with all his friends and did he ask permission.
Chief said he did not and that they’re only allowed 1 friend in at a time anyway… I also told him about the house being a wreck and he just sounded exasperated and frustrated.
Welcome to my world, Bucky.
When he got home that night, he told Bubba that neither of them are allowed to have friends in without permission and that he already went through this crap with Weed and he wasn’t going to go through it again.
Bubba finally slept upstairs last night because the weather became alot cooler so this morning when I woke him up, I openned the door to his room and I guess trauma from getting beaten with the belt wore off because his room was a pig sty again.
Spaz’s is just as bad but he has to get it up to par today or he’s not going to the baseball game tomorrow night.
I’m trying to be fair .. and I’m not going to tell Chief about Bubba’s room. He’ll see it tomorrow when he wakes him up for school…
The more I think about it .. the more I really do think all this will be solved if I get laid off because then I’ll be home and will be able to keep more of an eye on things AND on them.
Right now, they both have WAY to much liberty and unfortunately, the time each of us stays away from the house can’t be helped. It’s our means of survival so keep your fingers crossed that I do get laid off and maybe that way the universe can get back to some semblence of order!
LIVING ME 101 